Does the baby feel like yours?

Feeling connected immediately does not happen for everyone and that's okay

Does the baby feel like yours?

This is kind of embarrassing, but I’ve talked to enough moms to know I’m not alone. When my son was born I wanted to “know” him, but I didn’t quite know him the way I wanted to. I knew this fear was a little irrational and I felt silly for feeling this way (I still do actually), but it was really hard to let him out of the room.

I had this fantasy that we would immediately have this deep connection, but it didn’t play out exactly that way. I was more just amazed by this little creature that cooed and cried and smelled wonderful, but was he really mine?

The thing that made me feel most connected to him was hiccups. When he was in my belly, he would get hiccups every night around 8:30-9 pm. The first few weeks of life, he continued to get those hiccups around that time.

It’s so silly how much reassurance those little hiccups provided that he was my baby and that I knew something about him that could be a little predictable. It was nice to be able to recognize something small and familiar in him.

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